Breaking Dishes

Confession time… I love Rihanna. I have such a girl crush on her. Her clothes are sometimes bizarre, but they work on her. She’s got awesome fashion sense and I love her music. “Good Girl Gone Bad” is still frequently played on my iPod two years after the release of the album.

So this whole Chris Brown/Rihanna thing. Apparently he beat her. No one has confirmed it yet, but the fact that we haven’t seen either since the incident and she hasn’t come out to support him or to deny the rumors pretty much confirms that she is the victim in question.

It’s a horrible situation. No one- no one -should have to deal with that. Rumors have it that she got peeved at him after reading a text which insinuated he was planning on getting with some other girl that night. Other sources say she’s a jealous girlfriend… but guess what, none of that could ever condone his actions. You do not hit a woman, it’s as simple as that.

What perhaps makes me even more upset is that some celebrities are starting to stand up for Brown. WTF?

Terrance Howard said in an interview:

“It’s just life man,” Howard said of the situation. “Chris is a great guy. He’ll be all right. Rihanna knows he loves her. They’ll be alright. Everyone has just got to get out of their way.”

Excuse me? She knows he loves her? They’ll be alright? They better not be alright. She better not think that’s love. Do not stick up for this man, this is completely unacceptable behavior.

Rapper, T.I. told Carson Daly:

“Yeah, I spoke to him today. He cool, you know. I guess he a little concerned about the situation, but he’s still the same Chris. Hey man, you people gotta remember, we celebrities and we entertainers but we still human. All of us. Don’t expect us not to make mistakes ‘cause we will.”

I can’t believe I’m about to agree with Perez Hilton, but since when is hitting a woman a mistake? Since when is that considered something that is “human.” He’s concerned with the situation? He’s just concerned with how it’s affecting his image, his publicity and album sales? Both Milk and DoubleMint Gum have dropped him as a sponsor and a radio station in Pittsburgh has stopped playing his music. I definitely support the action to stop playing his music. While I do understand that we should assume innocence until proven guilty, the lack of denial by either side plus the astounding evidence against him tells me that he is most likely guilty.

Chris’s wardrobe guy says:

“Chris is all right. He’s a good kid. He feels very bad that something like this has happened.”

Another friend says:

“You can tell everybody that Chris really feels bad about the whole situation, about it coming out the way that it happened, the way he went about it, the way she went about it … it’s just a wack situation…not as bad as everybody is trying to gas it up to be”

He feels bad something like that happened? Don’t do it! This just makes it sound like he feels bad that it was publicized, that he was caught. He’s upset that it was made public and has ruined his image. What pisses me off the most is the line that the source was upset with how she went about it. Ok, maybe it would have been best for them if it wasn’t public, but what it sounds like is that it was as if the police shouldn’t have gotten involved, that she shouldn’t have done that. If we’re to believe the reports of the extent of the injuries she received he deserves everything coming to him. It’s not as bad as what it’s made out to be. Abuse is bad, it doesn’t matter if the result is a small bruise or a reported split lip and swollen eye, it is always bad. It is never, ever deserved.

Ugh, don’t these people have publicists that can tell them you don’t stick up for an abuser?

I hope Rihanna breaks up with him. I hope she doesn’t put up with this. The situation sucks, but I hope she’s able to use it to draw attention to the horrors that happen to women on a daily basis. We often assume that abuse has a face, that it’s not those who could have the world at their feet, such as Rihanna. I hope that she uses this to open a dialogue to get more women to speak up and hopefully stop the occurrence of violence against women. As for Brown, I hope he is used as a poster boy for an abuser. While I don’t really know what he is known for other than his remix of Rihanna’s “Umbrella,” Jordin Sparks’ “No Air” and for dating Rihanna, apparently he is pretty popular among the kids. I think this too is also an opportunity to show us that the abuser is not always what we may think he looks like. While it’s a crappy situation on both sides, I think this is a jumping off to open a discussion with young men and woman what is and is not acceptable and how we should be treating one another.

VDay is an excellent organization with a goal to stop global violence against women and girls founded by Eve Ensler, the creator of The Vagina Monologues.


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